Got an e-mail from my little friend Kate; we were talking about purses when she hit me with the news that she's getting married. In September.
To a guy she met in April.
The first thing I did when I saw this e-mail? Called her and said, "You're WHAT!?!?!?" to which she replied with a laugh, "Why did I know I was going to get a quick response from you on that?" And I growled my usual "Mmmmmmmmmmmmm" that I do when I've been hit with dubious news.
(She knows I'm blogging about this, btw, so I'm not talking out of school or anything. And no, she's not knocked-up.)
So I heard her out about why she feels the need to this, and she said that ultimately when it comes down to it, if she described why it felt so right, it would lose all meaning. She also said that they were thinking about doing it in March, but that fiance's sister's getting married in April, and she had an aneurysm that she was going to get upstaged, so then I said, "So you can't wait until AFTER APRIL!?!?" and she said "Well, yeeeeah." There was also stuff about why should they pay $900 apiece for their cribs when they're already living together practically (reasonable), but that his parents wouldn't let them live together without being married (not their business since he's, like, 26) and that his parents got married quickly and have been married happily for 38 years. So then I told her that there are at least three marriages I know of right now that happened just as quickly that are either on the verge of petering out or already have, and are you SURE you REALLY want to do this, because odds like that? Not promising. But she swears this is what she wants. So I told her that she was 21 and that once I get over the initial shock, I'll be supportive and wonderful. And she said she understood my concerns and everything. It was fine.
But man! Three months!?!?!
Tell her to run... RUN.
And she's got the REST OF HER LIFE to be tied down.
Send her to M-town chop chop.
Sheeat, kidnap her and drive her to Michigan and leave her naked i a hotel on her wedding day.
At least, that's how we discouraged GUYS form getting married.
oh crap - you mean THIS april. i was like... well, ya know last april's not that bad, till i got to the END and red "three months!!"
then i went :O
and i agree with Snidge - tell her to friggin RUN. if he's it, he'll still be IT in a year.
Marriage, like driving, should require a license. And you'd have to be 25 to get one.
Don't get me started on pregnancy,
Dix
The thing about Kate is, she's very thoughtful and wise beyond her years, so I'm not worried that she won't be able to rebound from whatever happens. It's just ... dude, it's three months. I'm sure it can be done, but it still makes me nervous.
Man you left out the best part! You know, the part where I was practically engaged to my boyfriend of two years and dropped him like a hot potato for L.
Seriously, though... no running necessary. Mich can tell you that I've been going on 40 since I was 11 and that I don't take things lightly and not think it through. This is right for me and I don't expect anyone else to understand it; but I would also hope that those who don't know me or L wouldn't judge, either.
Thank you, now I am going to go back to being blissful. ;-)
Oh, and Dix... isn't there already something out there that is like a license to get married? Gee what do they call that? Oh, right, a marriage license. It's already required and I'm already getting one, thankyouverymuch. :p
Touche.
Ok, a license and a test. ;-)
Seriously though, I understand you in some ways. I was 20-ish going on 50 for a very long time and people still have a hard time believing that I'm as young as I am. (Which, unfortunately, isn't really all that young any more). Unfortunately, being male, I was soooo not ready for marriage at your age and still wonder at 30 if I can manage it without spontaneously combusting.
If you're blissful, who are we to deny you that.? Like Broad said, the odds are against you, but that means that some small part of the odds are still in your favor.
May the most you wish for be the least you get,
Dix
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